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Sam Cagnina
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Samantha Singh
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Steven Margolin
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The Director,
Susan Kaplan
The Relationship Expert,
Dr. Pepper Schwartz
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- [Steven Margolin] My question is: Steven, I just want to comment that you did not come across uncaring to me. Maybe because I know when you said this is a film made by an outsider. I have made numerous relationship errors over and over. and if there isw one thing I know, only the people in it truly know what happens. your question of “How do you know?” to the person criticizing you was dead on, how could anyone possibly know except the three of you. Like I said I have made numerous errors and my family has suffered with insensitive family members and friends trying to pump for info. My sister is wonderful when they ask what happened she looks them dead in the face and says “I don’t know, I don’t live with them.” So, I applaude you for leaving instead of staying when more hurt might have ensued because as you said, it’s a film, but we weren’t there and shouldn’t judge why you split. In fact we shouldn’t judge at all, I bet each person who has judged any of you has their own “secret,” we all do.
I just hope all of you are doing good. I was saddened when you split but am happy for you. I’m also glad for Sam and I hope Samantha has a special someone. The kids are lucky to have parents who love them. So many don’t. Take Care, Lori - Thank you for your insightful comments Lori, I appreciate them!
- [Samantha Singh] Hi Samantha I loved the movie and I think you are beautiful. I was wondering if you (or Sam or Steven, for that matter) have had any more children since the taping or plan on having any more children? Also I know that you mentioned that you are not bisexual, but I found it curious that you were/are attracted to gay/bi men. I know that you said you fell in love with Sam and Steven for different reasons, but have your recent relationships also been with gay or bi men? If this is too personal I apologize. I also just wanted to say that I think it is wonderful that you are all actively involved in your children’s lives. Cheers! - Ari, from Virginia
- Ari,
I haven’t had anymore children, I have been blessed with the two that I have. I also haven’t had a relationship like the one I had.
Thanks for your e-mail.
Best Regards,
Samantha
- [Samantha Singh] Bonjour! Je suis Française et je viens de decouvrirvotre film documentaire. Wouah!! Durant la projection je n’arretais pasde me dire c’est trop genial, et si ca durait? Malheureusement ce n’est pas le cas. votre relation etait si epanouie que je me mettais a rever que ca puisse marcher. Vous m’avez touche, vous et sam aussi. Votrefairplay et votre gentillesse.... je tenais absolument a vous dire quevous m’aviez émue. J’espere aussi que le francais ne sera pas un obstacle!! MERCI. Juste une question, aujourd’hui comment allez vous?!! - Virginie, Paris
- Dear Virginie,
Merci beaucoup! Thank you for sending such a heart felt e-mail, and from one of my favoirite cities! I am fine, all is well with everyone.
Best Regards, Samantha
- [Samantha Singh] Je voulais vous dire que vous êtes une superbe et très belle femme; bonne continuation de La Rochelle, France.
- Merci beaucoup!
- [Sam Cagnina] Ya’ll’s film confirmed the reality of “true love,” and shows how ANY relationship requires patience, good communication, and compassion for success. Thanks for that! In the film Samantha remarks that the sex has stopped. Did it ever resume? Did it stop because your loved one Steven had walked out, and that altered the sexual relationship? I can imagine that such a hurt could be a turn-off for quite a long time. I know this is personal, and I won’t be hurt if you choose not to answer.
- Thank you for your question. The reasons the sexual relationship between Samantha and myself stopped after Sumit was born are too complicated to put into an e-mail; however, to try and answer your question... One of the reasons was that Samantha knew my attractions for men before she entered into the relationship with Steven and myself, and excepted our relationship, and to now try and bring another man into the relationship after Steven would be like hitting the lottery twice. What the three of us had was special.
Just to update you to where we are, Samantha and I are still living together raising the children. This year will be 20 years that we have been together. I am in love and have found a wonderful man who accepts me and the complications and the creation of my life just as it is. He and Samantha have grown to be good friends. As always my life is a blessed one with much to be grateful for.
All the best,
Sam
- [Steven Margolin] Did you try to discuss with Sam and Samantha what needs, frustrations, etc., that you were feeling before you decided to leave the relationship? What happened? I hope you can all be good friends again one day.
- Hi there and thank you for your question. As it was stated in the movie, the three of us had been in counseling for a couple of years before I left the relationship. Sometimes in life, you realize that there are differences that simply cannot be resolved and it is time to move on. Regardless of what it took to get here, I think we all have a stronger sense of our individuality and are in a much happier space.
- [Samantha Singh] Would you say that threesomes make life and love easier in that there is one more pair of hands to do household work, one more childcare person, one more individual to trust and confide in, one more income to support the household, and even more extended family to share with?
- Sure, the more hands you have in raising a family the better, but you also have to make due with what you have.
- [Samantha Singh] Hi, Samantha. I saw the movie on Sunday. I was shocked and impressed. How are you doing now? Did you find somebody? I am really concerned about you, because you are the one who has to take care of the children. - Teresa
- Teresa. Thank you for your concern, I am fine, and blessed to have the kids! Best, Samantha
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